Eye contact. Who does that anymore? Try it. Look directly at someone while you speak to them. Listen in the same manner. If the conversation lasts more than 30 seconds, someone will break the connection. One of you will break eye contact. And I don’t mean glance away, but actually continue the conversation as though you are going to finish the discussion with the wall, the counter or some other inanimate object.
This brings to mind a statement made by the character of Kronk in my daughter Tehillah’s favorite movie, Kronk’s New Groove, as he describes the woman of his dreams:
And her eyes…
They say the eyes are the window to the soul…
Hers were more like steel-reinforced security doors
with a combination I just had to crack.
Be determined, confident and make a connection. In Kronk’s case, there was a reward to making a connection with the object of his affection: she would become part of his dream to have a wife & kids & house on a hill. It was what his father expected of him, and all Kronk wanted to do in life was make his “Papi” proud.
Likewise, there is always a reward for us to make real connections with the people we run into every day. Not only connecting with our family and friends (which we need to do more), but even just the day to day people we take for granted, the barista at Starbucks or the gas station attendant at Chevron. We are rewarded with relationship, and we make our Father proud.
Practice talking with your eyes. Look and love.
Tomorrow, check back for the 3rd post in this 4 part series:
“Look Deep into my Eyes”