It’s all perspective, you know? Two people experience the exact same event and depending on a great combination of external and internal factors one may interpret and remember it as a positive experience, while the other might interpret and remember the same experience in a negative way.
People are crazy. My wife’s parents introduced me to the song “People are Crazy” by Billy Currington some time ago. The concept made sense, although I interpret it to mean something like this: People will do what they will do. It’s up to the individual to interpret a particular experience, run it through their own set of filters (based on beliefs, emotions, past experiences etc), and determine how the actions of other people will affect the individual.
Here’s the interesting part. When someone has been hurt in the past, has insecurity based on past experiences, or is wounded or otherwise not whole, or healed, then they are to some degree, hurt. On the outside, it may appear to be just a scratch, but a plethora of underlying issues may cause an old wound to reopen, and an action that should have only caused a scratch suddenly becomes life-threatening.
While God can and does heal us, often we are required to bring something to the operating table to see a full healing and recovery take place. Many times a physician will instruct his patient to follow a special diet post-op to assist and speed healing. A Christian post-op diet consists of only fruit, and is found listed in Galations 5:
Galations 5:22, 23
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
This article is directed at the hurt person, as that is the person who makes a choice on their own reaction to a hurtful situation. It is their choice, and yes it is a difficult one, whether to walk in hurt or to walk in healing. Hurt people hurt people, yes, but I believe the opposite to be true as well; healed people heal people.
People will do what people will do. Most of the time they aren’t trying to hurt you. Walk in healing, walk in forgiveness, walk in love. Hurt less, love more.